How Can I Help My Depressed Child?
Here are some things you should do if your child is depressed:
LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN Move away from any lecturing or incessant questioning. Instead, find time to be with them and LISTEN. The less you talk, the higher quality of interaction and understanding you will have.
Get them outside. Physical activity is vital for teens struggling with depression. Encourage them to go for a walk, a bike ride, etc. Go for a walk with them if they are willing to.
Limit Internet use. This won’t make you popular but parenting is not a popularity contest. Replace that time with opportunities to engage with your child in positive, healthy activities.
Look and act UNDERSTANDING. Even if they don’t respond, kids hear it when you make statements like “I know you are going through a hard time now. I’m here for you.” “I miss our talks.” “I sure do love you!”
Move away from criticism. Do you tell your child everyday how much you hate their smoking (or some other behavior)? Do you think they have the message by now? Telling them frequently how you feel about their behavior is not having much of an impact. They KNOW how you feel. Find something else to talk about – praise them for something, share fond memories you have of times with them, invite them to be with you for something new. Push yourself out of your comfort zone and create new opportunities to spend time with them. Make sure it is something they enjoy!
Reach out for support for yourself. It can be hard to live with a teenager who is depressed. Find a support group or see a therapist.
Don’t ignore the elephant in the living room. Tell your child directly that you are worried about them – and that you love them.
Check in regularly with their teachers. Be up-to-date on your child’s attendance, behavior in school, peer group, and grades.
Learn about depression. The Internet has tons of helpful ideas.
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